The Big Show vs. Mia

I had been talking to a new guy, a wrestler turned teacher.  Go figure, he actually looked a lot like the WWE wrestler known as "The Big Show."  He coached football at the high school that he worked at, which made him all the more appealing.  He seemed like a big guy with a big heart.  What initially attracted me to him was the fact he appeared in his picture to be a bigger stronger man and that he was also a teacher, which showed that he had a softer side as well.

"The Big Show."

The Big Show had a kind disposition, which went along well with the whole teaching aspect that he had going for him.  He constantly commented me on how beautiful I was and even made the initiative to call me on the phone before meeting up.  Throughout this whole dating debacle, one of  the things that can make dates awkward is not hearing the person's voice before meeting.  I know it sounds weird, but honestly, the tone of voice that a man uses when he addresses you can really make things different.  Additionally, in the Big Show's case, the fact that he was unafraid to call showed initiative, which meant that he was generally interested.  I cannot tell you the number of men that I let slip through the cracks once I gave them my phone number because all they ever did was text me and never cared to call.  Texting can be fun, and yes, it is a huge part of today's day and age, however, when it is possible to talk to someone face to face or over the phone and actually hear emotion in their voice, I say go for it.

Another thing that worked wonders when talking to my Wrestler was the fact that he had skype.  I was actually able to see and talk to him Jetson's-style before meeting him.  All that was missing was Rosie the Robot asking me if I needed a milkshake and fries.  Skype can be kind of daunting; you don't have the freedom of being able hesitate with your answers and you cannot insert silly little smiley faces and hearts to fill the space.  It's just you.  On the other hand, if I wanna play devils advocate, it can also get kinda weird .... Not saying my wrestler did anything crazy, but he was slightly peculiar on skype at times.  For starters, he took of his shirt to show me his tattoos, which scared the crap out of me!  I definitely thought that he was stripping for me at first and was ready to block him before he explained what was going on.  He also kept kissing the camera as if kissing me. Ummmm kinda awkward... I felt like I was in a giant fish bowl and he was pushing himself up against the glass trying to break through. 

My wrestler was a good guy for the most part; his heart seemed to be in the right place, however, at times I'm not sure if his mind was. Some people think it's funny to joke around about different ideas and concepts and I usually do for the most part, however, I think that some of the things that this guy joked about made me feel slightly uncomfortable. Therefore:

Rule #3: Do not make jokes continuously about getting married, moving in together, having babies,etc; especially if you are just meeting the person for the first time!

 Yup.  My Wrestler continuously made crazy jokes about when we would get married.  I don't know about most people, however, I personally get somewhat overwhelmed if someone I just meet for the first time keeps making these types of jokes.  I do understand that it is all in good fun, and if it was a one time occurrence, I would have gotten over it, however, let's be real, there has to be some sort of breaking point.  This wrestler crossed the line and played outside of the ring.  If making those kind of jokes were comparable to a blow that a wrestler might sustain in a fight, I was knocked out during the first round.  

To end my dating story with the Big Show, we talked a little bit here and there after our first date.  He was really sweet but the jokes about marriage were just too much for me to take in.  He lost a lot of brownie points and cuteness for being a big sweetheart because of that.  In the end, even if he didn't make those comments, I think I would have moved on since he did not really seem to have that wow factor that I was looking for.  As luck would have it, a few months later he contacted me, told me he lost his job, was cheated and swindled out of thousands of dollars, was broke, and was living out of his car.  Yikes.  I guess it's a good thing he knocked me out first round of I would have had a broken nose a few cracked ribs to have to deal with.

<3 Mia